Ever feel like you have nothing left to give? Like there’s nothing left in the tank?

I’ll repeat the question because it is important! Do you ever feel like you have nothing left to give? Like there’s nothing left in the tank? Whether personally or in business!?

We all have (or have had) those days. I sure as hell have them. You feel drained. Sometimes it’s simply because of the people we hang out with. Sometimes it’s a combination of that combined with life’s experiences being presently less favourable.

Especially in the case of the latter some of us just want to curl up in the foetal position under the covers and forget the world.

Forget the responsibilities we have.

Forget the truth that the only way we get out of the mess we are in is through taking action; even if the direction we go in first is not the most direct route to a better place, some action, any action is better than remaining paralysed by whatever it is that has you depleted.

When people in your environment are negative, and especially when they spew their negativity all over the place, it is easy to be affected. You’ve experienced this before I’m sure.

You feel great and suddenly there is someone in your environment who is being negative. You immediately feel your energy levels drop. You feel that little less happy. The buzz you felt goes. You want to go as far away from this person as you can.

In everyday encounters no issues. Exit stage left and off you go.

These people have no further meaning to you or your life are less likely to impact you at your core. Yes, you probably walk away feeling like you need a bath because they’ve spewed their negative crap all over you and everyone else within hearing distance. But that’s all.

That is very different to someone with whom who you have a deeper relationship, someone who means something more to you. With them it is less like a superficial covering of negative energy excrement, and more like you’re a sponge that’s been dropped in a cesspool of negative energy raw sewerage.

These types of relationships are more complex, and whilst I’m pretty sure there is some sort of bell curve about when it is easier and more difficult to break out of them, the simple truth is that it will always be an emotional drain at some level to break the ties.

If breaking off is your intent, because you’ve had enough, you’ve examined yourself and your soul, spirit, or source honestly and with integrity and you can conclude unequivocally that departure from the relationship is the only solution, then I suggest you seek to achieve it in a way that creates an environment where you both can still communicate.

If not the path back is paved with a simple recipe. Giving good energy recharges.

Giving in general feels great. Forget the science that supports it. You know yourself when you give someone something you get this rush.

The secret to happiness is giving happiness. The secret to being loved is giving love. The secret to being anything is giving others that same thing.

Giving good energy recharges. Giving negative energy keeps the tank empty.

A simple technique that works for me when surrounded by negativity in any forum is to close your eyes (or if you are more advanced you can do this with your eyes open and shut out the visual noise), breath and focus on your breathing and on your heart chakra (centre of your chest) or if that is a step too far, focus on the imagery of what your heart / your loving self represents. In my experience, anything from 5 seconds to a few minutes or longer delivers a great energy reset and recharge. I hope it works for you.

Now while all ofthe above may appear to reference only personal relationships, the exact same principles hold true in business relationships. Business and personal are the same in pretty much every aspect.

Be happy!

Paul J. Lange
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Paul J. Lange

Founder & Chairman at T.H.E. Group
Exit Strategist, Investment Readiness, Inspired Process

International Veteran Private Equity Industry, Investor, Venture Capitalist, Strategic Advisor, Keynote Speaker, Author, Mentor

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Exit Strategist, Investment Readiness, Inspired Process

International Veteran Private Equity Industry, Investor, Venture Capitalist, Strategic Advisor, Keynote Speaker, Author, Mentor

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